Concerned Friend
Gannett Health Services
110 Ho Plaza
Cornell University
Ithaca, NY 14853-3101
Tel: 607 255-5155
Fax: 607 255-0269
Email
Living in close proximity to others has its advantages but also adds some responsibilities. As a roommate, friend, teammate, study partner, etc., you may be the first to notice a peer struggling with personal issues, exhibiting unhealthy behavior, or acting in other ways that are cause for alarm. Any student may consult with Gannett for help thinking through how or when to help a friend, or another peer, access appropriate care. Do not hesitate to call us at 255-5155 for confidential assistance.
It is possible that you know precisely what the concern is. In that case, you may want to check out one or more of the following areas:
It is also equally possible that you are noticing some sort of troubling behaviors but are unsure of the cause. If you observe any of these signs of distress, you might want to strategize with a friend, co-worker, teacher, or Gannett health care provider or counselor about what you might do.
Signs of distress
Typical signs a student may be struggling include:
- missing classes
- getting behind on coursework
- withdrawing from friends and commitments
- erratic sleeping patterns
- appetite and weight changes
- deterioration in physical appearance
- excessive alcohol or drug use
- odd or erratic behavior
- frequent difficulties in relationships
- hostility toward others
- excessive worry
- consistently sad or depressed mood
- expressions of hopelessness or wishes to die
- self-harming behaviors
- anything else you sense is self-defeating or unhealthy
Other resources:
This site contains additional information about managing Concerns About Others. You may also want to check out our section of Topics and Concerns or Health A-Z to learn about specific health concerns and/or check out our list of Community Partners to assist you in getting the support that you need for yourself, or for your friend.

